Your Mini Vow-Writing Guide
- Courtney Genereaux
- Sep 19
- 2 min read
(A little inspiration to help you write words your partner will never forget)
Writing your own vows is one of the most personal things you’ll do for your wedding. It’s not about perfect grammar, or whether your words sound like they belong in a movie—it’s about speaking straight from
the heart.
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Think of them as your love letter for the big day, said out loud, in front of the person you’ve chosen for forever (and maybe a few friends and family who will pretend not to cry).
How Long Should They Be?
The sweet spot is about 1–2 minutes when spoken aloud—roughly 150–200 words. Long enough to make them feel the weight of your promises, short enough so no one has to wonder if there’s an intermission.
A Simple Framework (Because blank pages are intimidating)
1. The Opening – Your “Why”
“From the moment I met you...”
“I knew from that first (coffee / awkward date / road trip) that my life would never be the same...”
Set the tone. Go heartfelt, go lighthearted, or mix the two—your call.
2. The Heart – A Story or Snapshot
Pick a moment that feels like you two: the day you met, a small but telling moment, or a challenge you faced together.
This is the part that makes your vows yours and yours alone.
3. The Promises – The Good Stuff
Use “I promise...” or “I vow...” as anchors.
Blend deep, emotional commitments with lighter, playful ones.
Example: “I promise to love you in good times and bad... and to always make extra popcorn for movie night, even if I don’t want to share.”
Finish with a line that feels like a period, not a
comma—your emotional mic drop.
Tone & Style Tips
● Write the way you speak. If you never say “thus,” don’t start now.
● Mix romance with reality. Big sweeping declarations are great—pair them with little everyday promises.
● Talk to them, not about them. Look your partner in the eye and say it like you mean it.
On the Day
● Bring them neatly written or printed on a vow card you can keep forever.
● Take your time—pauses for happy tears are allowed (and encouraged).
● If you’re nervous, remember: everyone is cheering for you. No one wants you to “nail it” more than the person standing across from you.
Your vows aren’t for the guests, the photographer, or Instagram—they’re for the two of you. When you speak from the heart, the words will land exactly where they’re meant to.
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